[Grant wouldn't be wrong for replying with what's the truth, but good on him for having some restraint. The kind someone else doesn't have and that's why they're gathered here today.]
I saw you were at Allura's party, but I didn't get a chance to talk to you then. [More like Pidge told him to behave and while pissing others off is one thing, Lance is terrified of pissing her off. He likes his ankles uninjured.] And this is pretty much way late, but I wanted to apologize for offending you at the auction way back when.
[Lance thought his words were perfectly fine! At least they weren't "I'm sorry you got all salty and gave yourself high blood pressure over a joke."
Squinting at the reply on his screen, Lance is getting the feeling this won't be as simple as just saying sorry.]
I'm apologizing cause I said something fucked up.
[He's not going to touch on anything about having this same conversation with Steven or Thace because that's something that won't ever happen (not without a whole lot of therapy.)]
[He takes a breath, considering for a moment whether and how much to explain himself. Given what he saw at the auction and in the aftermath, he sort of suspects that "not yet" here means "never", so:]
While I want to accept your apology, the fact is, Steven and Thace have been treated much worse through this whole thing than I have - and their having reacted harshly doesn't justify it. Until they've been properly apologized to, the message we're all getting here is that it's somehow our obligation to keep quiet when we're wronged.
[With how hard Lance rolls his eyes at Grant's response, it can probably be heard around the Pokeworld. He feels no need to apologize to Steven and most of all, Lance has some misdirected and unresolved issues he's put on Thace that he's not ready to tackle anytime soon and apologizing to the Galran means he'd have to do that. No. Absolutely no. Conceal, don't feel. Emotions don't live here anymore.
Except annoyance which Lance is full of right now and just barely holds it back through texts.]
Nobody asked for that. They'll get their own apology when I talk to them.[Eventually. Never. Like on the day after Shiro's birthday.] My mother taught me it's better to apologize separately cause group I'm sorries are...
[Impersonal? Probably. But Lance, somewhere out there, a chancleta is flying towards your head cause you know that woman didn't tell you that.]
If I did that, one of you guys would have gotten salty about that too.
[So Grant... types and deletes a lot before putting his actual response together.
Nobody asked you to harass three people at a charity event, either, and yet here we are.
Speaking of which, quick question, are you actually even sorry or are you only here because Shiro told you to apologize?
Weird. My mother taught me that the important thing is to make sure everyone knows you mean it.]
Then there should be no problem. Again: Get back to me after you've done that.
[You know we're not obligated to fall to our knees in gratitude over an I'm sorry after you publicly humiliated us, right?
You're not doing a great job of pretending not to look down on the people you hurt.
Fuck you.]
If you want to sound like you actually mean it that time, avoiding doing things like calling us salty is probably a good place to start.
[Kinda makes you sound like a petty twelve-year-old that didn't get the memo that when you apologize to someone, it's their choice whether to accept it or not.]
If you're actually sorry, I'd hope you'd be able to understand that it's the right of the people you wronged to choose whether they can accept your apology.
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Sure.
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I saw you were at Allura's party, but I didn't get a chance to talk to you then. [More like Pidge told him to behave and while pissing others off is one thing, Lance is terrified of pissing her off. He likes his ankles uninjured.] And this is pretty much way late, but I wanted to apologize for offending you at the auction way back when.
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He sits back and rubs at his temples for a second before responding. At least this isn't a surprise.]
Okay.
So, I'm going to be honest, I'm not sure you understand the actual problem here, which I'm frankly most concerned with.
Are you sorry for what you said to me, Steven, and Thace, or just that it happened to bother me?
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Squinting at the reply on his screen, Lance is getting the feeling this won't be as simple as just saying sorry.]
I'm apologizing cause I said something fucked up.
[He's not going to touch on anything about having this same conversation with Steven or Thace because that's something that won't ever happen (not without a whole lot of therapy.)]
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Alright.
Have you said as much to Steven and Thace?
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No. Not yet.
[Not ever if Lance can help it really, but does Grant need to know that? Nope.]
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[He takes a breath, considering for a moment whether and how much to explain himself. Given what he saw at the auction and in the aftermath, he sort of suspects that "not yet" here means "never", so:]
While I want to accept your apology, the fact is, Steven and Thace have been treated much worse through this whole thing than I have - and their having reacted harshly doesn't justify it. Until they've been properly apologized to, the message we're all getting here is that it's somehow our obligation to keep quiet when we're wronged.
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Except annoyance which Lance is full of right now and just barely holds it back through texts.]
Nobody asked for that. They'll get their own apology when I talk to them.[Eventually. Never. Like on the day after Shiro's birthday.] My mother taught me it's better to apologize separately cause group I'm sorries are...
[Impersonal? Probably. But Lance, somewhere out there, a chancleta is flying towards your head cause you know that woman didn't tell you that.]
If I did that, one of you guys would have gotten salty about that too.
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Nobody asked you to harass three people at a charity event, either, and yet here we are.
Speaking of which, quick question, are you actually even sorry or are you only here because Shiro told you to apologize?
Weird. My mother taught me that the important thing is to make sure everyone knows you mean it.]
Then there should be no problem. Again: Get back to me after you've done that.
[You know we're not obligated to fall to our knees in gratitude over an I'm sorry after you publicly humiliated us, right?
You're not doing a great job of pretending not to look down on the people you hurt.
Fuck you.]
If you want to sound like you actually mean it that time, avoiding doing things like calling us salty is probably a good place to start.
[Kinda makes you sound like a petty twelve-year-old that didn't get the memo that when you apologize to someone, it's their choice whether to accept it or not.]
If you're actually sorry, I'd hope you'd be able to understand that it's the right of the people you wronged to choose whether they can accept your apology.