Than it is a matter of familiarity, rather than structure?
[He supposes there is some sense to that. Dedue has been loyal, and Dimitri thus learned when they were young to see past the otherness of his features and knows that his face is not one to be frightened of. He knows that regardless of what his countrymen tell him. Lorenz is still an outlier with no solid explanation, though.]
I suppose that it matters little, however. For as long as I am in Faerghus, I will be judged based on their standards, even if it is not fair to do so. I should not anticipate anything else.
[...He doesn't know about how Dedue phrased that.]
It's both.
I see what you mean there - but it could be good for you, all the same, to bear in mind that those standards aren't objective. That Faerghus saying one thing about you doesn't mean it's true.
Besides, now you're not *in* Faerghus. Do you think you could try and adjust how you look at this stuff while you're here?
[Big ask, Grant, but he'll at least try to remember that most people wouldn't look at him and see a man who's kin to regicides.]
I am, at least, glad to know that I may not be so frightening to people here as I was in Faerghus. I did not enjoy children's reactions to me, nor their parents' reprisals, but I had few ways to ease their fears.
Yeah, I get that. I imagine it wasn't near as bad on my end as yours, but having people treat you like a threat just based on how you look, and knowing there's no way to reassure them, just... really sucks. But people here definitely seem better about that.
Wow yeah uh. That having happened to begin with is intensely and deeply fucked up? Jesus, honestly fuck that place. I'm *really* glad you're getting a break from that garbage here.
Yes. Though I suppose I should note that I experienced less open hostility than the rest of my people. While I was with His Highness, they could not be actively violent towards me without it being construed as an attack on their prince. The Dusci people living in Fhirdiad had no such protections.
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[He supposes there is some sense to that. Dedue has been loyal, and Dimitri thus learned when they were young to see past the otherness of his features and knows that his face is not one to be frightened of. He knows that regardless of what his countrymen tell him. Lorenz is still an outlier with no solid explanation, though.]
I suppose that it matters little, however. For as long as I am in Faerghus, I will be judged based on their standards, even if it is not fair to do so. I should not anticipate anything else.
[So, y'know. What he'd been doing.]
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It's both.
I see what you mean there - but it could be good for you, all the same, to bear in mind that those standards aren't objective. That Faerghus saying one thing about you doesn't mean it's true.
Besides, now you're not *in* Faerghus. Do you think you could try and adjust how you look at this stuff while you're here?
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[Big ask, Grant, but he'll at least try to remember that most people wouldn't look at him and see a man who's kin to regicides.]
I am, at least, glad to know that I may not be so frightening to people here as I was in Faerghus. I did not enjoy children's reactions to me, nor their parents' reprisals, but I had few ways to ease their fears.
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[Somehow, the more people learn about Faerghus, the more reasons they have to not go to Faerghus.]
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Wow yeah uh. That having happened to begin with is intensely and deeply fucked up? Jesus, honestly fuck that place. I'm *really* glad you're getting a break from that garbage here.
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Doesn't make what you dealt with any less messed up. I get you though, that is absolutely horrifying.