hey grant can i talk to you about something? kind of important but also nothing uh... well you didn't do anything wrong! i just wanted to pick your brain abt something.
in theory as the poly expert of this group would it be weird if one -- or well two of us in this case -- got married because i may or may not have gone with claude to place a custom order for a ring for Felix so uhhhhhh
Oh! I mean, first off I would not call myself an expert of any kind, given that this is the first relationship like this I've been in too.
That said, I don't think people with multiple partners getting married is unheard of by any means - and it seems pretty appropriate in you guys' case! Congrats, by the way.
i mean its not official yet i still have to ask him but i wanted to check with you and dimitri first that it... well, that it would be okay with you guys. that there wouldn't be any discomfort or feeling like things were uneven.
i just want everyone to be happy but i also want me to be happy? but uh, thank you.
Oh, yeah, I'll admit it might've been a bit of a shock if we just found out after you got engaged, so I definitely appreciate that you're checking with us; but I can assure you now that it's fine with me if it's fine with everyone else.
Good - you deserve that, both of you! Best of luck - though I can't imagine that Felix would turn you down.
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can i talk to you about something?
kind of important but also nothing uh... well you didn't do anything wrong! i just wanted to pick your brain abt something.
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as the poly expert of this group
would it be weird if one -- or well two of us in this case -- got married
because i may or may not have gone with claude to place a custom order for a ring for Felix so uhhhhhh
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That said, I don't think people with multiple partners getting married is unheard of by any means - and it seems pretty appropriate in you guys' case! Congrats, by the way.
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i still have to ask him but i wanted to check with you and dimitri first that it...
well, that it would be okay with you guys. that there wouldn't be any discomfort or feeling like things were uneven.
i just want everyone to be happy but i also want me to be happy?
but uh, thank you.
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Good - you deserve that, both of you! Best of luck - though I can't imagine that Felix would turn you down.